People of Enneatype FOUR are idealistic individualists, motivated by a desire to understand themselves on a deeply introspective level, and to express their feelings in a unique and authentic way. Fours are emotionally honest and creative, striving to bring something special and personal to the world. More than any other type, Fours differentiate and individuate from others; the concept of “blending in” is anathema to them.
Fours are comfortable experiencing emotions at a very deep level, even negative ones. When self-aware, they are able to hold space for others through grief or complicated situations that would be too hard for most.
Fours perceive themselves as being fundamentally different than others: they long for emotional connection, but there is an underlying feeling of being either tragically misunderstood or deficient in some important way. This can lead to self-indulgent melancholy and to frustrated/negative reactivity.