Type Nine

Peacemaker / Mediator

Type Nine Overview:

People of Enneatype NINE are easy-going peacemakers motivated by a desire to foster harmony in their environment, and to maintain an undisturbed and comfortable equilibrium. Their typically-calm, congenial and accepting nature makes it especially effortless for them to relate to people with a variety of opinions and temperaments. They are often a favorite and trusted confidant for others.

Nines can exhibit a wide variety of external behaviors -from introverted & creative to extroverted & witty – but what they have in common is an overwhelming interest in avoiding disturbances and keeping the peace. As such, they make exemplary mediators for others, but also end up merging with others or “going along to get along” in order to minimize upsets or discord.

Nines rarely exhibit external anger (and indeed, might not even recognize anger in themselves at all), but it is lurking underneath the surface. Nines, like all others in the body triad (8,9,1) resist being controlled or pressured, and in their efforts to avoid whatever causes them discomfort, they can be surprisingly stubborn and resistant.

 

At Their Best:

Adaptable, steady, supportive, patient, non-judgmental and excellent mediators.

When Struggling:

Indecisive, spaced-out, unfocused, apathetic, passive-aggressive, and stubborn.

What Type Nines say about themselves:

  • As a harmonizer, I can see all sides to every issue.
  • I avoid conflict and want a comfortable solution.
  • I have difficulty saying “no” and can get resentful later for agreeing to something I don’t want to do.
  • I am ambivalent or unsure about my own needs and wants.
  • It’s much easier to go along with others than to rock the boat.

From www.narrativeenneagram.org

We each feel that we must show up in a certain way in the world in order to deserve love.

These are internal messages that resonate with Nines:

BASIC FEAR: Of loss and separation.

BASIC DESIRE: To have inner stability “peace of mind”.

BASIC PROPOSITION: “You gain belonging by merging with others, and comfort by dispersing your energy into objects and activities.”

AVOIDANCE: Conflict, confrontation, and discomfort.

FOCUS of ATTENTION: Other people’s agendas and the external environment.

  • Positive aspect: The ability to see multiple points of view and to empathize with almost anyone.
  • Negative aspect: The tendency to have trouble knowing their own opinions or figuring out their own agenda, sometimes stubbornly resisting making priorities or taking action.

 

Strategies For Growth:

  • Observe your habit of mind or focus of attention with as little judgment as possible. Ask yourself, in what ways am I going along with other’s agendas and how am I getting distracted from my own priorities? Remind yourself that your own priorities are just as important as anyone else’s, and that it is crucial to set aside scheduled time to deal with your own agenda.
  • Notice when you are daydreaming, drifting off, or tuning out, and force yourself to pay attention to what is going on. Work on focusing your attention on the real world around you so that you can be an active participant in your own life.